His Whole Life Son Is Afraid to Come Out to Mom as Transexual until She Says, ‘Don’t Lie to Me’ – Story of the Day
A transexual at the beginning of his transition is terrified of coming out to his family, especially his mother, and then she comes to visit...
Edgar Tormaine had always known that he was different from other people. He often felt that the person he was inside had nothing to do with the person others saw.
As the years went by, Edgar felt more and more unhappy and uncomfortable in his own skin, but to be who he really was might cost him what he treasured most: his family.
By the time he was 18, Edgar, or Eddie as his friends called him, knew in his soul he was dainty and pretty and feminine. He knew he was a woman, that some terrible mistake had placed him in the wrong body.
Eddie knew that he wasn't like other people. | Source: Unsplash
But Eddie continued to play his part perfectly. He played baseball, drank beer with the other guys at college, and chased co-eds because that is what boys do.
Eddie kept the terrible secret that he wasn't a boy at all. By the time he was 25, he knew that he had to make a decision. He could live miserably as he was or he could let the woman inside him out into the world.
No one knows and loves a child like a mother.
It took a lot of therapy and courage, but Eddie finally made up his mind. He was going to transition. By then he was nearly 30, and he hadn't said a word to his mother, his father, or his younger brothers.
He just couldn't, and God knows he'd tried. Last Thanksgiving, he stood up, glass in hand, and said he had an announcement to make, then he looked around at those bright loving faces and his courage deserted him.
Eddie had planned to come out to his family but he lost his nerve. | Source: Unsplash
He could imagine the disappointment in their faces. He could live with anything but that, so he swallowed the speech he prepared and said: "I want you all to know I love you. You're the best family in the world!"
Eddie, who was a successful software developer, told his family that he was taking a new and exciting job in Portland, Oregon, which was, unfortunately, on the other side of the country.
He intended to start his transition far away, and hopefully, one day, when he was comfortable in his new skin, he would share himself with his family. At least, that was his plan.
What Eddie hadn't reckoned with was that his mom would visit him three months after the move. When Mrs. Tormaine announced she was arriving, Eddie panicked.
Eddie moved to another city so he could transition. | Source: Pexels
He took his beautiful, new feminine clothes out of his closet and stuffed them into boxes which he placed in storage, and went to fetch his mother at the airport wearing a loose T-shirt to hide his budding breasts.
"Mom!" Eddie cried and hugged Mrs. Tormaine. "I've missed you so much!"
"Oh, Eddie..." Mrs. Tormaine sighed. "I missed you! Why did you have to come to Portland! It's so far..."
"It's the work, mom," Eddie said awkwardly. He HATED lying to his mother, and up until now, his entire life had been a lie.
Eddie was worried when his mother came to visit. | Source: Unsplash
Eddie took Mrs. Tormaine home and settled her into the guest bedroom. Hopefully, he would be able to manage the week-long visit without too much trauma -- and maybe even tell her the truth.
"Eddie, honey!" his mom called. "I've done something silly! I left my slippers at home! Can I borrow yours?" Before Eddie could react, his mom walked into his bedroom in her robe.
"Where do you keep your slippers?" she asked and opened the wardrobe door. Eddie had taken out his clothes, but he had forgotten one thing -- a pair of glittering red stilettos!
"Wow!" Mrs. Tormaine cried. "These are fabulous! Where are they from?"
Eddie's mom found his red high heels in his wardrobe. | Source: Pixabay
"Erh..." Eddie gulped and said, "Those are my girlfriend's..."
"Edgar Francis Tormaine," she cried. "Don't lie to me! I know the shoes are yours! I just wanted to know where you got those amazing vintage designer shoes!"
"You...you know?" gasped Eddie. "You know I'm...transexual?"
"Oh, Eddie," his mom said tenderly. "Honey, I'm your mother. I know who you are, inside and out, and I love you."
Eddie's mom accepted his choices. | Source: Unsplash
"What about dad? And...and David and Carl?" he asked nervously. "Do they know too?"
"Pretty much," Mrs. Tornaine said. "Actually, we thought you were going to come out at Thanksgiving, but you choked up. We've been waiting for you to be ready."
"Oh, mom!" Eddie cried and threw his arms around his mother. "I've been so afraid you'd all be disappointed in me..."
"We'd never be disappointed in you," his mother said. "How can we be when we love you? We want you to be happy."
Eddie became the woman she was meant to be. | Source: Unsplash
Eddie couldn't stop crying. His family accepted him. All that had stopped him from feeling at ease had been his own fear. Now he could count on his family for the most important journey of his life.
Two years later, when Eddie, who was now Frances, went in for her final surgery, her whole family was there to give her their love and support.
What can we learn from this story?
- Don't let fear and insecurity isolate you and steal your happiness. Eddie cut himself off from his family out of fear of rejection and missed out on all the love and support they had to give.
- No one knows and loves a child like a mother. Eddie never imagined that his mother had known his greatest secret for years.
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